Why do people always want to fit in? Why would you want to be one of the “crowd”?
“Why fit in when you were born to stand out”. – Dr. Seuss
I came to the conclusion sometime ago, that I don’t wish to fit in with society or the “cool kids”. Come to think of it, even in high school, I was an outsider, I didn’t fit in with any groups. Finding something worth my time was one of the reasons why I chose not to “fit in”. There were not too many people with the same interests as myself. And I don’t say that in a negative sense. I have always been on the move and looking for ways to challenge myself, so I wasn’t a “fan” of hanging out and doing whatever everyone else was doing.
There are several positives to not fitting in.
- Your friendships have more worth: When you make a friend or friends, the relationship has substance. These friends seem to be life-long friends. You are able to understand what a true friend is. Being the “go to” friend when things get difficult or when life is going well. These days a true friend is difficult to find. Someone you can call when your car is broke down, who will come and help you, no questions asked. Or when you are low on funds and need to buy some groceries, they give you some cash to go to the store. That is the true friend that we all need and need to be. We need to be a friend that doesn’t have a hidden agenda.
- You have a better sense of self: You have had to discover who you are. You have been able to examine yourself, and find what you like and dislike. You also need to discover your likes and dislikes so that you can find the characteristics you like and the ones you dislike in your prospective friends. If you know yourself, you can find people that compliment you. Im sure you have heard the expression “birds of a feather flock together”. The people you surround yourself with are usually like you, yet somewhat different. Hopefully their strengths will rub off on you and vice versa.
- You are not afraid to stand alone: You have been alone a few times before. You have to stand on your own beliefs and morals. By not compromising on your beliefs and morals, you have inadvertently equipped yourself to be strong to not waiver in the face of adversity. You will stick to your guns on issues that are important to you and those in your circle.
Believe it or not, you are a lot stronger than you think you are. Maybe it has been a rough road until now, or you are still on that rough road, you are growing as a person. A friend once told me that every scar has a story, good or bad. Those scars were all healed at some point in your journey. Your scars of loneliness, low self esteem, depression, etc. are stories you can share with others that you come into contact with to help them grow.